When we think of boundaries, we often think of a fence that keeps things out, or that keeps things in – animals, people, etc. An emotional boundary is the same thing. It keeps other people’s baggage, negativity, and unresolved issues from getting in to you, and it keeps your energy from going out to them. …
I’ll Be Happy When
What are your feelings of happiness based on? Is it something that is happening right now? Or are they based on something that you hope will happen in the future? ”I’ll be happy when I lose weight. I’ll be happy when I get a promotion. I’ll be happy when I get a significant other (or …
12 Ideas to Help You Stop Worrying
In one of his Instagram posts, Jason Dzamba (@jasondzamba) asked the question, “How would you describe 2020 in one word?” My word for this year was transition. For a lot of people, their word for the year would be something more like, stressful, hard, depressing, or trying. For the majority of people, there have been …
Small Acts of Kindness Make a Big Difference
We all know how important small acts of kindness are. Even the smallest act of kindness can change someone’s entire day, or the course of their entire life. I talked recently to someone who not only wants to spread kindness herself, but she wants to remind us all that being kind isn’t always easy, but …
What Does “You’re Too Much” Really Mean
Have you ever been told that you’re too much? You’re too fat, too skinny, too loud, too quiet, etc.? Or that your personality was too much? You’re too sensitive, too dramatic, or even too happy or too curious? It’s only recently that I’ve realized that when someone tells us that we’re too much, it’s most …
7 Things That Gratitude is Not
Knowing what gratitude is not is just as important as knowing what it is. If we can distinguish between the two, then we can learn ways to practice it, and implement it into our lives more easily. We can also use it as a way to make our world better, rather than making things harder …
Shifting Our Fear of Failure
I love the idea that I’ve heard from a lot of the major players in the space program: if you fail at something, it’s not a bad thing, it’s all part of the process of learning how to do it better. We often view failure as an end to our process, as a point to …
Ask Yourself These Questions Every Day
Recently I watched Brendon Burchard’s Influencer Summit. I took 15 or 20 pages of notes throughout the sessions, and my brain is still swirling with all of the good information that Brendon and the other speakers gave. Since those sessions, I’ve been asking myself these three questions every single day: 1) What am I doing …
Even Negative Emotions Can Be Beneficial
Have you ever really thought about what happens to your body when you’re angry or sad or worrying about something? I’d say for most of us, our immediate thoughts are consumed with dealing with the issue at hand, and getting the unpleasant feelings to stop. If we really learn to pay attention to our bodies …
Releasing Guilt and Feelings of “Not Enough”
The month of October always makes me think of one thing…..Christmas!!!!! No, I’m kidding. I think of that year-round. Haha. Because Halloween is in October, I tend to think about fears, and what things are holding me back. One of the big themes for me over the last month or so has been releasing guilt. …