We can’t control what is going on around us, but we can control how we let it affect us, and how we deal with it. Instead of giving into the fear and panic that is swirling around the world right now, we can choose to turn off the noise, and focus on happiness. This doesn’t magically make all of the bad stuff go away. It doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t be informed and use common sense to keep ourselves safe. What it means, is that we shouldn’t spend our time reading about what’s being cancelled, postponed, changed, who’s getting sick, where it’s moving, etc. We can choose not to let fear drive us around.
This idea of not letting fear drive comes from Elizabeth Gilbert’s book “Big Magic”. In it is a letter that she has written to her fear:
“I recognize and respect that you are part of this family, and so I will never exclude you from our activities, but still – your suggestions will never be followed. You’re allowed to have a seat and you’re allowed to have a voice, but you are not allowed to have a vote. You’re not allowed to touch the road maps; you’re not allowed to suggest detours; you’re not allowed to fiddle with the temperature. Dude, you’re not even allowed to touch the radio. But above all else, my dear old familiar friend, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY FORBIDDEN TO DRIVE.”
When we allow fear to drive, it takes us places that are stressful and scary, and we have a hard time seeing a way out. The fear we are feeling, and acting out, then spreads and causes others to be fearful as well.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who is dealing with fear or self-doubt.
We can help to stop the spread of fear, by changing our focus.
Instead of thinking about all of the things that you can’t do, think of all of the things that you can.
Here are some ways to change your focus:
1) Watch funny videos
2) Read a book
3) Play games with your friends or family; cards, board games, video games
4) Use this as a time to declutter your house
5) Or to do little projects around your house that you’ve been putting off.
6) Have a movie night, and watch some of your favorite movies
7) Go outside and find the beauty in nature
9) Hold your pointer finger until you feel a shift in your state of mind – this finger is connected to our kidney’s and relates to the emotions of fear, fright, and shock. For more on finger holding, read this post.
10) Write – letters to people you know, your own book, happy little notes to your friends and family
11) Make your own food and do a food challenge of some sort – for some ideas, read “Play With Your Food”
12) Take an online course, a Masterclass, or research something that you’ve been wanting to know more about
13) Search Pinterest for funny memes, cute animal pictures, or other things that make you laugh or smile
14) Find ways to make others smile and laugh
15) Create a scavenger hunt for your friends and/or family. You can create one for your own group and do it together OR break your friends and family up into groups (maybe by who lives together already) and then each group creates a scavenger hunt for another group to do. For example: if you have 3 groups of 4 people, each group would create their own scavenger hunt and then give it to another group to actually go do. This would be more fun for everyone, since the creator generally already knows where everything is because they are the ones that found it in the first place.
Focusing on the positive things in our world, helps to raise our vibration.
I’ve talked before about vibrations, and how we attract things to ourselves. We do this with the good, and the bad, that we keep placing in our minds.
When we align ourselves with certain things, either by continuously doing them and thinking about them, or by reading about them and watching them, we begin to draw those things to ourselves. This is the theory behind the law of attraction.
If we’re thinking positive thoughts, about the dream life that we want to live, about the steps that will get us to our happiest lives, we attract positive happy things into our lives. When we begin to take steps in that direction, we find more and more happy.
Now, if we’re thinking negative thoughts, the same applies. But, when we start taking steps on the path that our negativity is showing us, it’s most often out of fear. We start over preparing for things that we are afraid may eventually happen. We read and listen to the news, or what others are saying, and we forget to use our common sense, we forget to think about what is best for us.
Bad things happen around the world every day. Things that are completely out of our control happen every day. If we choose to focus on all of these things, to watch, read, and listen to nothing but these things, then we are going to begin to take steps out of fear. These steps will only lead us to being more fearful, and so on. Be aware of what you are putting into your mind each day.
Not only are we affected by what we do, read, watch, and listen to, we are also affected by the vibrational energy of those around us.
Some people are more sensitive to these energies than others. Some people are much more aware of being affected than others. With the sheer number of people that are living in fear right now, it can have a negative effect on us if we let it, even if we aren’t feeling fearful ourselves.
If you find yourself feeling more anxious, upset, or overwhelmed right now, but you’re really not sure why, it could be that you are absorbing the energy of others. This could also be true if you find yourself feeling more tired and out of sorts.
My husband and I went to the grocery store the other day to get a few things that we needed. The longer we were in the store, the more anxious both of us felt. We felt like we had to rush from shelf to shelf, grabbing what we needed quickly. We started worrying that nothing we needed was going to be there by the time we got to it. After a few minutes of this, we stopped and I said, “What is happening?”. We realized that we were both absorbing the chaotic feelings of those around us. We stood and watched people for a minute and saw that they were rushing around, grabbing, and had an overall look of being stressed out. Once we acknowledge these feelings, we shielded our own energies, and then moved on. We were able to observe what was going on around us, without getting sucked into it.
If this is happening to you, take the time to rest more often. Also, limit your time looking at social media, being around those that are doing nothing but talking about what is happening in the world, and doing anything else that seems to quickly drain you. You are not crazy. There are a lot of us out there that are feeling this way. For more in depth information about this, you can watch some of the latest videos from Melanie Beckler and Victor Oddo. They both also talk about the best ways to shield your energy during chaotic times.
Instead of letting fear drive you crazy, try using fear as a motivator.
Fear in and of itself is not always a bad thing. It is normally something that we are trying to get over, ignore, or do away with entirely, but what if we used fear as a motivator. Instead of allowing fear of the unknown to keep you paralyzed, use this fear to help you move forward. Instead of worrying about getting sick, try working on ways to make yourself healthier. Eat foods that make you feel better; give your body the rest that it needs, rather than burning the candle at both ends.
If we can recognize fear, reframe it to see the positive, and use it as a driving force to move forward then it can be beneficial. Unfortunately, many of us get stuck in the fear cycle and it affects things in a negative way. If you find yourself in this cycle, stop and make a conscious decision to step out of it. Look around you and find something positive in your immediate surroundings. Doing this helps you to start looking for the good the situation right away.
As you continue, check in with yourself from time to time and make sure that you aren’t sliding back into the negative spiral. If you do, don’t beat yourself up. It happens to all of us at some point or other. It’s not whether or not you feel fear, it’s what you do with it once you realize what’s happening. To feel fear is human. Keep making the conscious choice to step back into positivity and happiness.
Change your focus and prepare to move forward
Remember, use common sense, and protect yourself, but it’s just as important in this time to find the positive in your situation. Figure out how you can use your time to move yourself forward, instead of just spinning your wheels and worrying.
Yes, events are getting cancelled, places are closing, but look for the blessings that are in disguise. You may not be able to see them all right away, but start looking now.
Concentrate on doing some of the things listed above. Look for the beauty in the world. That way, when all of this is over (and it will be over soon…remember…this too shall pass), we’ll all be in a better place. We’ll be that much closer to living our happiest lives.